Xenia-Polyxene Kokovika "Metamorfosis Expanding Your Existence"
RELATIONSHIP. A
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Whenever we feel incomplete, we have the impression that we need someone
else to close the gap, complete what we are missing, and fill the
emptiness within us.

Then months or years after we enter a relationship, we realize that we
still feel incomplete and that there is still emptiness within us. We
think that this is because our partner is incabable of fulfilling us and
decide that he or she is not the right one for us.

In other words we decide to blame someone else for our own emptiness and
for our lack of happiness.

And so we turn to yet another partner, thinking that he or she will be
the solution.

With this type of behavior accompanying our lives, the first thing that
we accomplish is to program ourselves to fail in any relationship;
second, we place our happiness or misery in the hands of someone else;
third, we end up constantly trying to change others in a way that we
think would make us happy; and fourth, by always blaming someone else,
we never take the time to converse with our own self and to identify
what we really miss.

And, the funny thing is, even if we do succeed to change our partner, we
then discover that we no longer like them, because by changing they lost
those differences, quirks, and faults that made them attractive to us in
the first place!